WRONG! Money do can buy you Happiness…


Dear Admin,

So most at times we did hear folks all around say this old adage to us day-in, day-out and although it really sounds like the very truthful things or phrases heard it undoubtedly is very wrong. For various reasons i attribute this phrase to an original quote that goes ” Beauty lies within”. Truthfully, as i stayed naive for a very long time, i came to believe in it but now i would be like “Are you kidding me?”

I would keep this one very simple. Read head

These adages are seen by various groups(mostly religious) as being intellectual truths. I jokingly said to myself. That guy on the street whom i just gave a quarter doesn’t look so happy than I. Or is he? Maybe he is because he solicits money freely from others without rendering service “en contre partie”. And I was right! Who wouldn’t want to do nothing for something?

The generalization of the word happiness is somewhat misused in the phrase. On the other hand, beauty itself in this context is a sin qua non for deceiving all who agrees unrealistically. I know some good folks who chose their mates in order to preserve the relationship. By simple definition “beauty” here means:

if my mate ain’t beautiful enough other persons wouldn’t even ask him/her out thus I losing him/her in the near future.

This trick works very well and many have kept longer relationships. You ask truthful guys/men who cheat on their girlfriends/wives they would tell: ” i cheat because that other girl is hot” literally meaning, “they cheat because the mate stopped being beautiful”. The same goes for women who cheat on their mates. It’s all about appearance.

But read carefully as i explain to you why money do can buy you happiness.

Some call it luxury others call it vanity but i call it “a pure simple life”. Imagine you woke up early in the morning(you stayed overnight at a social friend’s place) and you also happen to have 40 billionth $ in your bank account. So you wake up hungry for breakfast and decide since its only less than an hour flight from Paris(you live in Paris,France) to Monaco you take a flight

with your friend(and or call more friends to come along)there. You arrive in Monaco bay and you buy yourselves the best heartwarming breakfast one could ever get.

Thereafter, you guys head back to Paris and live your normal day as everyone else. Now at six p.m , Chelsea is playing the UEFA so you guys charter another flight to London, take up a VIP seat since the economy seat is somewhat crowded(trying to forget that guy who puked all his booze on you the last time). After the match, you take the same swift plane to Morocco and you get yourself a taste of exotic Moroccan cuisine for dinner. Since it would be too late to return to Paris, you pass the night in Sofitel Hotel near the golden beach of Agadir with an exquisite sunset singing lullaby to you as you calmly fall asleep forgoing the sound of running water flashed from your upstairs neighbor.

You wake up early, charter another flight back to Paris to begin another normal day be it work, schooling or running around with your hands in the air. Don’t even think of judging me as I’ve not yet informed you what you might do on weekends.

That’s not all, those guys who attacked me last week by the roadside robbing me of my phone, fake swatch watch and 20$ did not seem happy getting “rich” off me. I can recall they really looked pissed i only had 20$ on me and thank the Most High they didn’t realize my watch was a fake.

Money can’t buy Happiness? Are you kidding me? Am right now thinking of going to visit my long lost found cousin in the United Kingdom but guess why i cant go.

The only way it can’t(Money can’t buy Happiness) is if you spend it alone. Whether you are Poor, Average or Wealthy. Share it!

Here’s an equation i found on facebook. I don’t really agree how about you?

Women

No ass + Nice face = Bad shape

Nice boobs + Nice shape = No face

Nice face + Good clads = Bad boobs

Good boobs + Nice clad = Dunderhead

Bad boobs + Bad clad = Loving

Nice face + Nice shape = Slut

MEN
6 pac + Handsome = Player

Bad shape + Stingy = Intelligent

Wise man + Humble = Poor cladding

Romantic + Caring = Broke

Understanding + Caring = Less romantic

Loaded + Loving = S.T.Ds.

Thanks for reading

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The New: I Am A Ghanaian Dot Com


Since the beginning of 2011, the iamaghanaian.com team came into the depths of their toils. We basically weighed ourselves and our hopes for success as well as deliberating on many other viable options that we considered to be the true identity of what we most likely want to see from our users. But we saw a few.

Seeing wasn’t all about just believing so we opened our doors to the critiques of our cherished users. And though we went somewhat from more than personal contact to open mindedness, our most patronized  and well wishers did not cease to tell us more about the big perfect picture underneath out toils. Our users showed us more.

We were shown how far we could get to. They showed us how aspiring our aims, goals and prospections looked and sounded like in reality. And since we ourselves were of good quality and determined to achieve without fail, we took all the advice we could lay our hands on. In fact, we were greedy on that. We spared no idea, no simple truth and neither any critique.

We spread them on our decisive table, skimmed and panned through then we thoroughly made sure we understood them like they were our own. Like i said before, none was left out. The first of our resolve was to work on our user-interface.

Though some of you might think upgrading a website is all about pressing that big red button that starts moving data from one server to the other, we ourselves made sure it wouldn’t be only that but an extra work into perfection. An upgrade that will look much more appealing and generally Ghanaian cultural so our mostly Ghanaian users will observe how serious we meant when we asked them for their opinion. See the difference below:

Iamaghanaian.com before

Iamaghanaian After.

The graphic content and versatility of “Iamaghanaian After” is a must see. The rich text content as well as a more friendly iamaghanaian.com in relation to other websites (e.g facebook, twitter, yahoo) are what the team insists on achieving in addition to plug-ins, applications and music downloads. Can you imagine those are just the few amongst all we seek to accomplish? We never give up, so don’t you either.

After all, WeAreGhanaians. aren’t you?

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Azonto Fever, The New Ghanaian Craze.


Its Azonto! “Yea, you know what time it is.” says Sarkodie, the self proclaimed inventor of the Azonto dance. Before you read further, all I kindly ask of you is to watch this short video of how the new Ghanaian dance, AZONTO, goes. Funny thing, my in-built dictionary keeps red underlining the word “AZONTO”.

Its my guess after watching this video you probably would watch it a second time before i finish, edit and or re-edit this blog.

Azonto originated from somewhere in Ghana. Hey! don’t ask because i have no idea where exactly. What i know is, it’s the new craze, the new fever widely spread out across the globe even known to the most hidden Ghanaian immigrant somewhere in Uzbekistan. Use Google earth. You’ll find him/her.

Everyone is dancing Azonto. Anyone not yet dancing it is probably discreetly learning how to dance it in their rooms or public sanitary places. Been there, done that but not all, lol.

The Azonto dance so popular to the extent that the youth of Ghana enjoys it more than looking for work or coming up with fresh and innovative ideas for the very broke, mismanaged and highly going to turn worst economy of Ghana.

In fact, word out is, the youth of Ghana will rather spend time dancing Azonto and making videos of themselves than using up proteins in their cerebrum. The truth is it, this dance has no cultural roots but people are making it cultural. Yep, welcome to Ghana. On the other hand, i would want you to take note that the old and real Azonto dance is totally different from the new age Azonto.

Enough being a hater. If you don’t know how to dance Azonto in Ghana, then you certainly have to dig and bury yourself because this singular, simpler dance has brought many Ghanaians all around the world into doing the same something just at an exact same time and moment. Isn’t that just amazing?

It has brought so people in this simple country, it reminds me of one fact, THE ONLY THING GHANAIANS DO TOGETHER IS TO DANCE AND ENTERTAIN THEMSELVES, thus the total absence of war in the history of Ghanaian. Isn’t that twice Amazing?

The dance just like any other Ghanaian dance, even if someone is just jumping like he’s on fire, does one thing, speaking to  another and or an audience.

And that’s why the Azonto dance has become very popular among the youth of Ghana today. In my opinion, the youth having so many things to say has put all those words into the Azonto literally virtual dictionary. The dance can be done alone, but that’s unless you mostly talk in your sleep, to yourself. This dance works perfectly well following one important and essential rule of communication. COMMUNICATION INVOLVES TWO PEOPLE. Azonto always works well when it involves two people “dancingly” talking to one another.

Now, let me teach you how to dance the Azonto. Yes i forgot, re-watch the video for second time.

Wish you all Azonto days ahead. Meet you on the AZONTO battlefield.

African Women Abroad Seriously Seeking Husbands


Why are many African women abroad now seriously looking for husbands or serious partners? Why are they single in the first place? What kind of men are they looking for? How do they feel being single? etc. To understand and unlock these and other puzzling questions, Emmanuel Sarpong Owusu-Ansah, a lecturer and an investigative journalist in London, conducted a survey on 244 African women, married and unmarried, aged between 21 and 40 in England, UK.

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woman

Quite disappointingly, only 150 out of the 244 women approached did respond to the initial questions. 25 out of the 150 initial respondents, then willingly and confidently provided profound information on single African women abroad.

Of the 25 women who agreed to be intensively interviewed, 15 were single, 5 were in serious relationships, and 5 were married. They were from Ghana, Nigeria, Cameroon, Sierra Leone, Kenya, Uganda, Zambia, Tanzania, Botswana, Zimbabwe, and South Africa. The term ‘single’ or ‘unattached’ as the respondents explain, does not necessarily mean living without sex. It only refers to people who are not married or who do not have “serious” partners.

Important Statistics 92(approximately 61%) out of the 150 respondents described themselves as single or unattached; 31 (representing 21%)were in serious relationships, and only 27 (forming 18%) were married.

Those in the Prime Years group (21-25, 22%), Vital Years group (26-30, 27%), Borderline group (31-35, 32%), and the Danger Zone group (36-40, 19%). Note, that because of the small sample size, the fallacy of generalization may be committed if these statistics or findings are viewed as a perfect representation of the real situation in England or the West.

The Reasons so Many African Women Abroad are Single

Perceived shortage of decent men in the West: Almost all the women interviewed shared the opinion that it is quite uncommon to come across single men with good character these days. Many African men also prefer women who have legal status that they can benefit from; hence, they tend to get married to westerners rather than Black African immigrants. The words of a respondent say it all: ‘The truth of the matter is, we do not have a very wide selection of African men to choose from as we (the single women) outnumber them (the single men) in this country. Disappointingly, the few that are available tend to date and marry people of other races usually to get legal status.’ Again due to lack of trust for western-based African women who are generally perceived to be arrogant, argumentative, disrespectful, non-submissive and dishonest or unfaithful, other men go to look for women partners in their various home countries.

Tribalism/Ethnocentrism: Some African families have “blacklisted” certain tribes and/or countries, and would just not tolerate the idea of their children getting married to someone from these “blacklisted” societies. It has in fact become an abomination in many African countries for people from certain “rival” tribes to get married. Sadly, beautiful young women are missing the opportunity to get married to men they love, all in the name of tradition or tribal hatred. As one Ghanaian respondent mentioned: ‘There is this guy who loves me so much …. I love him too, but I know my parents will be gutted and disappointed in me if I tell them that he is from … (country withheld)… I’m just scared.’

Spending Prime years pursuing educational and Career goals: It might sound quite harsh, but one revelation made is that the best moment for most women to get suitable partners or husbands is when they are in their Prime. Hence, the need for them to capitalize on their young age, looks, and fertility to get the kind of man that they want. For religious, academic or educational, as well as career or occupational reasons some young women dedicate less time to socializing and searching for that “decent man.” By the time they realize the need to have families, age had already caught up with them; and as looks or beauty and fertility commonly decrease with age, they end up in a position where attracting men becomes a bit more difficult.

Unnecessary church rules/codes: Many churches or religious denominations do not allow their members, especially the women to marry outside the church. Attempts by female members of these faiths to marry men of other denominations are usually frustrated by their church leaders. ‘I became a member of my church when I was only 20 years, now I’m in my late 20s, and none of the men in the church has ever asked me out or shown any interest in me. Yet, my pastor wouldn’t welcome any of the many guys that have expressed genuine interest, just because they are not members of our church’, a quite attractive respondent lamented. Other religious denominations also do not allow their members, chiefly women to date a man before marriage for fear that they may be tempted to engage in pre-marital sex – which is viewed as a mortal sin by almost all Christian faiths and many other religions.

Misconception about educated African women: The difficulty in finding husbands is clearly being experienced by highly educated women as well. Three of the ‘unattached’ interviewees had obtained their MA degrees yet they, to quote one of them, ‘are still struggling to get Mr. Right.’ This revelation in a way suggests that women with credentials or academic accolades do not necessarily attract men or enjoy some advantage in terms of getting husbands. This is certainly not to discourage female education or scare women who aspire to reach the apogee of the academic ladder. What has been pointed out is that ladies who achieve higher academic successes are often erroneously viewed by many men as domineering, women who have less respect for their husbands and are thus hard to get along with. Many highly educated African women have also been accused of ignoring interested men whose educational qualifications are below theirs; hence their singleness.

The Desire to marry wealthy men or men with legal status: It has been established that many African women only look for men who are rich and/or have legal status. Consequently, they ignore those who are genuinely in love with them but are not very financially sound or do not have strong legal status. In the end, they are taken for a ride by the so-called wealthy dudes and men with legal documents, and thus return to what Nigerians call “square one” (where they were before – singleness). It has been observed that most African women, no matter how financially sound they are, seem to prefer men with good jobs and good salary to those doing menial jobs or struggling to get jobs, even though the latter might demonstrate more traces of genuine love than the former.

Unwillingness on the part of some men to be burdened with financial responsibilities: Due to the economic downturn in many western countries, many men are scared of the usually huge financial cost of marriage and/or financial responsibilities associated with marriage. The panic is made even worse by the traditional African notion that it is the responsibility of the man to handle all marriage and household expenses, even when it is clear that the woman’s job or income is much better than the man’s.

Poor choices (Ignoring or paying less attention to the right men): Some African women seem to focus on those men who would not give them the chance or the treatment they want and deserve. They spend their Prime years knowingly hanging out with thuggish types of guys or men with no substance (aimless), probably because of the guys’ good looks or the size of their wallets, only to be thrown away like dross after their precious time had been wasted. A respondent honestly narrated how she mistreated and sacrificed an apparently more serious and purposeful man for a handsome but less committed guy only to be thrown overboard less than a year into their relationship. When she realized her mistakes and decided to go back for the one she dejected and whose numerous marriage proposals she had initially turned down, he was no longer available (he was someone else’s darling). Some of the African women who make their way to the West deliberately fail to get in touch with their boyfriends at home thinking that they would get someone with legal documents to marry. By the time they become aware of their mistakes, it is usually too late.

Other past mistakes: Other mistakes made in the past by some women such as, waywardness, going out with married men, being impregnated by some reckless man who does not even accept responsibility, and single-motherhood, contribute to their difficulty in getting husbands. It may sound rude but the truth is that most men prefer women with no child to those with one or more.

Desire to remain single: It must however be emphasized that not all single African women abroad are interested in marriage or serious relationships; some prefer and seem to be very happy to be single. The words of one Nigerian respondent are noteworthy: ‘I wouldn’t lie to you, I hate marriage. If marriage is so great, why do most marriages end in divorce within a couple of years if not months?’ Many single people think they do have a meaningful love relationship in their life, and that for them, is enough.

Why Many African Women are now Desperately Looking for Partners

It has been established that the single women who are now seriously hunting for partners or husbands are mainly those who fall within the second and third groups (Vital Years and Borderline respectively), as well as those with children (irrespective of age). A number of reasons have been given for the alarming rate at which unattached African women abroad are desperately looking for partners. The following are believed to be some of the most dominant ones:

Old age catching up with them: For numerous reasons some of which are mentioned above e.g. spending years pursuing educational and career goals, hanging out with the wrong guys, etc.), many women are not able to marry or get serious partners in their Prime years. By the time they recognize their errors and the need to settle down to start a family, age is either catching up with them or has already caught up with them. To avoid carrying their singleness into the Danger Zone, or avoid being less fertile and having difficulty in bringing forth children, they try all possible but not always advisable means to get husbands or serious partners.

Pressure from family: In almost all if not all African societies, the institution of marriage is viewed as something that brings respect and honor not only to the couple but also their families (both nuclear and extended). For this reason, when after a certain age, e.g. 26+, a woman is still unmarried, her family particularly parents, start pilling pressure on her to get a husband and to give them (the parents) grandchildren. Note, that due to the religious nature of many Africans, pregnancy and/or giving birth out of wedlock, is not only seen as a disgrace to a woman’s entire family, but also a sin against God or the gods.

Security, loneliness and/or the sense of non-fulfillment: The need for some form of security and stable support, financially, materially, mentally or emotionally also motivates the determination of many women to rush to get husbands. However, there are some women, who have almost everything they need in life in abundance, but do not feel that sense of fulfillment without marriage. For them, a woman’s life without a husband or serious partner is nothing but an unfulfilled life.

Fulfilling a New Year Resolution: Before the commencement of a New Year, people make what is generally referred to as New Year Resolution. One of the key resolutions of most single women is to get married by the end of the year. Hunting for men is thus one way of making sure that their New Year resolution comes to pass.

Peers getting married: Some unattached African women abroad are so worried and disturbed about their inability to lay hands on someone they can call husband that, they wish they had never come to the western world. The statement of a Zambian respondent speaks loads: ‘I learn most of my old-time friends and former class mates in my country are happily married with kids, but look at me still struggling to get a good relationship let alone marriage’.

Conclusion: It is believed that single African women who fall within the Borderline and Danger Zone groups, and those with children are much more likely to be taken advantage of and sexually abused or exploited by selfish and lustful men as they are easily wooed and convinced because of their situation. In other words, they easily give in to false marriage promises or propositions of deceptive selfish and promiscuous men.

It is quite obvious that very soon more and more unattached African women in the West particularly those in England will be making their way to their various home countries to look for partners and husbands. However, the question is not whether or not the men in Africa are ready for the western-based ladies; it is rather whether or not the single ladies back home in Africa will watch the western-based ladies “scramble” for “their men” without a fight.

GOD BLESS AFRICA

By: Emmanuel Sarpong Owusu-Ansah

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HONOURABLE KOFI ATTOH talks about the Ghanaian educational system


An excerpt from “THE POLITICAL SEARCHLIGHT” a program on a
UK based Ghanaian radio talk show.

HOST: Do you think Ghana’s
free education is the best?

Classeroom Full of School kids

Classeroom full of School kids

Honorable Kofi Attoh:
No one can say Ghana’s education is the best. But the little we can do is to
improve upon the records and reports as it were. 

The main importance is
to “zero-in” on the rural communities. Anytime you visit a community school,
you find out they are no better on your next visit a year later. And yet we
don’t know where the problems are comes from, whether from the people,
supervision, the teaching, from parents. In fact most parents are unable to buy
exercise books prompting their children or most pupils to use a single exercise
book for six subjects.

A ghanaian school child

A ghanaian school child

Honorable Attoh reintegrated the need not to blame the
policies but rather work harder on the problems where and whenever they occur. He
stated, “Though our stagnant education
finds its roots deep within our history as far as 1950, knowing the improving
upon them in the current future is what we need to make our definitive goal
.

He furthermore gave
an example of cases whereby poor results were on heights but a lot of work has
been done to produce better results.  “And not only as a government but as a
people in general, we need to work hard on education,
stating the need not
to repeat ourselves if it was bad before and say it wouldn’t improve.

When asked what measures the government has in place for
academically poor but practically skilled Ghanaians, he commented on measures
like: Technical and Vocational Schools for JSS graduates. He added, the
government is placing enough computers into this after JSS institutions as well
as creating youth employment projects. He said such vocational
schools/institutions provide their student/trainees an opportunity to enter
into bigger universities after the graduate.
In his last words he finally quoted “All we need is faith”.

An Article on Ghana-Korean STX HOUSING PROJECT as said by Honorable Kofi Attoh.


RADIO HOST: What is the major problem with STX that has the country in disagreement prompting others including the opposition not to back it?

Kofi Attoh

The HONORABLE KOFI ATTOH talked about the need not to believe the many misconceptions. He said the country face a $1 million deficit and thus any means by which the Ghanaian government sees as opportunities to curb this deficit was welcomed.
He defined STX as simply: a partnership between Ghanaians and Koreans to build 300000 houses and homes which will later be sold to the Ghanaian general public.
He added, the arrangement in the STX deal included:
The Korean government contributing a sum lump of $10billion which will be used in financing the project. The sale of these houses will be used to repay the said lump sum.
 The government was included because the Korean government was cautious of their investment going down the drain in any political instability in the future. Thus the Ghanaian government inclusion, as a surety incase a new government comes and decides to seize all the buildings.
He affirmed:
 Firstly, STX is not a Ghanaian government loan or a loan to be borrowed by the Ghanaian government.
 Secondly, STX is not a Ghanaian government financed project for the Korean government.
He reaffirmed that the STX was a simple arrangement that goes “I build houses in your country, I sell.”
He said, due to the huge number of houses to be built, the Ghana government decided to buy a certain number of the houses for government workers especially the Ghana Police Servicemen/women. The rest will be available for sale to all private entities. The government involvement acts as an assurance for STX Koreans.
He further noted, the existence of STX in discussion well before the NDC government came into power thus, no need to throw into the garbage and say “it was an NPP affaire”. In his own words he said, “There is no need to be political about anything”.

In his last words he said: They moved on ahead with it because it is for the benefit of the simple Ghanaian.

What Do We Do?


Today i woke up and found am/was lonely not literally. This morning, i just stared at the ceiling for much longer than i did before and found it usual. One thought kept bubbling up and down in my head until finally i was able to capture what it was that troubled such a magnificent person i was. I had every single person feeding up on my charms now and then. And i’ve had strange persons read my blog and consider it fantastic(though i never edit what i write) and others follow my tweets and praise me for what i see not in myself.

And yet, i felt lonely. People far and wide adored my friendship now and then and yet there was a missing link, a broken wall, time escaping at every essence of breath i breathed.

Then i found myself thinking: i have all the love that i could possible have, from family, friends, colleagues and even strangers but why i couldn’t grasp that root of happiness on whose tree a sit each day.

Then again it just struck me like that unforgiving arrow of feeble cupid.

I found myself in love. It was a love so great and powerful over all things to the extent that each time am literally in the arms of a beloved, i still found myself lonely. Though i have many other loves which includes traveling, multi-cultural interests and history i found this love hidden within me very unforgiving.  And WHY, was because i’ve refused to acknowledged it existence.

The love to write, the love to share my thoughts, the love to inspire, the love to impact those abundance whispers and words of laughters and smile to everyone. I just simply gave it away for nothing so i just hit me right back. It made me lonely.

I was not doing what i was supposed to do. I was living the life to which the world provided me but not what i had originally wanted to do myself, i.e, capture imagination.

The world is running on  the imagination of others and i wasn’t doing my part. They stream through me and were never shared to the world through my writing thus the just bounced back into my head disrupting other thoughts in the making.

TWO BLOGS A WEEK AND ITS NICE TO BE BACK.

Psss: i never edit my blog.